Why I Didn’t Set Any New Year’s Resolutions

Talking with a friend tonight about New Year’s Resolutions we were laughing that neither or us had set one.  Was it out age? Was it our friend group? Why did so few of our friends not set a resolution this year?

I’ve heard friends say they plan to lose weight, I’ve heard decisions to remove wheat, sugar, exercise more, eat less cheese, read more, organize closets, ride to work, walk more etc. etc.  Are these resolutions? Maybe. I prefer to see them as promises. Promises to make a change. Promises for a healthier future.  Promises to one’s self that are a work in progress.  When you avoid the idea that you either succeed or fail in my mind you set yourself up for a more positive outcome.

This year I didn’t make a resolution or a promise.  I made a commitment to myself.  A commitment to treat myself well.  To take care of myself.  To get proper sleep, adequate water and think about my choices whether they be food, or how I spend my time. I want this year to be about me become a better version of me. I hope that involves losing weight, becoming more fit, but what I want more than anything is happiness, peace and a new start, a fresh start.

While there were some absolute highlights of 2014, they were overshadowed by my separation.  While I am still in the process of grieving my marriage and my hope for a lifelong partnership I know that I need to move forward.  This is a difficult part in my life but it will not define me. As a famous Canadian actress (popular in the 1920’s) Mary Pickford said, “failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.” If like me, 2014 hasn’t been without flaws let’s all take this time to not set a resolution but take a deep breath and get ready for a year of growth.

2014 kicked my ass but 2015 is going to be awesome, I can just feel it.