It never fails, when you are thinking about babies, they are babies everywhere. In the news, on the streets, in the media. Everywhere.
From the women at the museum this morning, to the ads in the newest Today’s Parent, to the Royal Baby announcement. Babies these days are everywhere.
My boys will be three in March. I am 36. It is time to make a decision once and for all about whether or not we are going to have more children. It is a tough one for sure, on so many levels.
First: Twins run in my family. For generations. I got pregnant with my boys easily, without any medical intervention and I had twins. My doctor has suggested that it is probably an 85% chance to have multiples again. Yes, you read that right – 85% chance. Pretty sure that another set of twins would put me in a mental institution.
Second: I am unfortunately not getting any younger. Even if I got pregnant now I would be 37 when it/they were born making me 41 when they are in school full time. As someone who has always defined themselves by their career this terrifies me. And, my husband has already give up a lot to stay home without boys while I work.
Third: Not sure how our lifestyle could handle more people. From our car, to the number of bedrooms, to the type of travel we enjoy. Another child would change all of that. Not to mention money. Kids cost money. A lot of money. So much that thinking about it makes my head spin.
Fourth: I had a good pregnancy with the boys until the very end. At which point I developed high blood pressure and had an extremely traumatic birth for the boys and myself. I don’t know that any of that would happen again but it scares the life out of me to even think about it.
But, despite all of those reasons I really feel strongly that we should try to have another child.
I’ve thought about it, laid awake wondering, I’ve dreamt about it, and in the end my heart and my mind are telling me different things.
How does one make such a life changing decision?